In a world of no communication, the inhabitants are left with only one option- to assume, and assume, they would. It is in fact true that in our complex world, we need assumptions to simplify things- in order to understand the relationship between things (like the price and quantity demanded of a commodity). In our human relationships, too much assumptions- and by extension, inadequate communication- can and will have some serious impact. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, to communicate means “to transmit information, thought, or feeling so that it is satisfactorily received or understood”. From this definition, we can see that inability to communicate can lead to at least we being misunderstood. Explore with me below some of the benefits we may derive from communicating.
What happens if you wake up one day and the news was being read in any other language apart from the one you understand? You might as well just focus on something else, right? While it may already be obvious, I think I should say (or write) it… the basic advantage of communicating will be to be understood. It would be difficult to come across someone who is a mind reader and hence eliminate the need to open up and talk in this world as I know it. So, it may be that I do not like talking for a very long period of time (like four hours continuous) or maybe I am just tired and need to sleep and as such cannot continue talking, there is no better way of getting this information to my partner than to communicate it and it is only then that we can have an understanding of the situation we find ourselves in which will further yield a satisfying result.
In almost all of the “newly found love” stories, a long period is spent on talking and chatting by these new lovers. As the couple get to know more and more of each other, the time they spend together seems to reduce. To build and maintain a strong relationship however, it is essential, I believe, to keep the communication going. Think about this for a moment, that neighbour you haven’t been talking to, how strong is your relationship? How about your relationship with the family member who stays some hours drive away from your house?
The lack of trust in some relationships can be attributed to the lack (or inadequacy) of communication. Why should I make such a claim? Why shouldn’t I? A man gets home from work to meet the absence of his wife only to later hear when she comes back that there was extra work to be done. After about three days of missing his calls, a friend calls his friend and justifies himself by saying that he was caught up in some busy schedule. Now in cases like these, I am asking the question, what about texting? While the reason given for the inactions and actions may be true, communicating these reasons and doing so early can clear unnecessary doubt in the minds of our partners and even build up trust.
If you have read up to this point, congratulations. I will like to believe that I have convinced you to take your level of communication a little higher than it currently is. But if I haven’t, take this, effective communication, whether you see it as seeking permission or not, will make your relationships more beautiful and enjoyable.